The eight-time mother Ashley Grimm from Idaho went through the most trying experience a mother could go through. She lost her 4-year-old son, Titus, in a horrible car accident - a boulder had rolled onto the road in a mountainous area. Many people now blame her for the death of Titus. But his mother isn't happy about this and describes her point of view in an emotional Facebook post.
Ashley always made an extra effort before every car ride to ensure that her children were buckled up. Unfortunately, her son, Titus, often secretly unbuckled himself during the ride. He hated being forced by his mother to wear a seatbelt during every car ride. His role model, the comic hero Flash Gordon, also drove without a seatbelt after all. "Flash doesn't wear a seatbelt and I'm Flash, mom!" Titus always used to call out. Ashley didn't suspect that Titus managed to unbuckle himself without the help of his older brother on the day of the accident. The two even changed places during the ride.
The tragic accident occurred on June 2nd. Ashley was traveling with five of her eight children in a large van along a curvy road. Suddenly a huge boulder rolled onto the roadway: "I had three options: try to avoid the boulder and aimlessly steer into oncoming traffic. Or crash into the boulder. Or drive down from the road into the river that ran alongside it. I didn't have a lot of time to think about it. I chose the boulder. I made the wrong decision."
The three ton heavy van crashed into the boulder. Titus was immediately ejected from the car. Ashley was bleeding and had fallen unconscious. When she came back to her senses, she freed the five children from the wreckage of the van. Then with her eight-year-old son's help, she managed to pull up Titus's small body, which was buried under the van. The desperate mother kept rubbing his stomach and tried to bring him back to life with a cardiac massage - all in vain. Titus was already dead.
The media reported about the car accident that changed Ashley's life forever. The mourning mother discovered accusatory comments from many readers on the internet. The people accused her of being a bad mother, because she didn't notice that Titus had unbuckled his seatbelt. Ashley was hurt to her core. "I wanted to punch them. I wanted to tell them how close we were and how much I tried to fight to save his life."
But Ashley didn't want to justify her actions. Instead she gave other parents an important message. "Hold your babies tight. (...) Take every hug and kiss they bring you - even the twenty fifth one they use just to get out of bed at night. And really squeeze them. ( ... ) Tell them you love them. But look in their eyes and say it like you mean it. Tell them they can do anything - anything they set their mind to."
Ashley will never able to do any of these things with her beloved Titus again. But she is trying to stay strong and be there for her other children. She hopes to encourage many parents to think about the way they handle their children. Parents should really cherish every second they have with their children, even when the little ones are sometimes hard work and don't always behave the way we would like them to.