There is a moment in every mother's life that she will never forget: the day she gave birth to her baby. Whether "naturally" or by Caesarean section, it is an experience like no other. For Raquel Maldonado, however, it became a real problem.
Raquel had always planned to have her baby naturally and she dreamed about how the day would go. But in the 32nd week of pregnancy she received some bitter news: her baby was in the breech position inside the uterus meaning that it would come out feet first. This type of birth can be extremely dangerous for both mother and child.
The solution to the problem was to have a C-section. Raquel was full of doubt and fear. She feared the consequences the operation would have on her body and struggled with the emotional turmoil of not feeling valuable enough as a mother, or losing her "maternal instinct."
In California, where she lives with her husband, going through with a natural breech birth is prohibited due to the risks involved for the baby. So Raquel had no choice — she had to come to terms with the fact that her child would be delivered by surgery.
Raquel helped herself deal with the situation by getting informed. She did research on the internet, contacted other mothers who had been in the same situation, and began to learn about the subject.
On the day of her baby Alexa's birth, Raquel was determined to make this the best experience of her life. And it was! Raquel shared photos of the beautiful birth on her Instagram account. The procedure went smoothly, her baby girl was completely healthy and her husband was even allowed to cut the umbilical cord.
When Raquel held her daughter in her arms for the first time, she knew that nothing else mattered.
All the fears faded in an instant and Raquel now has a strong message to give to all those women who feel the anguish of losing their maternal spirit by having a C-section:
"I don't feel as if I was robbed of a birth or less of a badass. This scar proves that I am indeed a badassmother!"
Things may not always go as we planned, but in the end we have to make the most of the hand we're dealt. That's exactly what Raquel did and when she looks at the surgical scar on her stomach, she knows that she is a strong woman and just as vital as mothers who give birth naturally.
"I couldn't be more proud of this scar. I couldn't be more proud of myself," wrote Raquel on her Instagram page.
Hopefully her openness and encouragement will help other mothers who are also trying to deal with the emotional stress that comes from not being able to give birth naturally.